When you are afraid, you start going into fight or flight mode. Your body starts prioritising what is needed for immediate survival - screw routine body functions, if you don't make it past the next few moments there won't be a routine to return to. You stop digesting food. Cell repair slows or stops. You stop producing saliva, which is why your mouth goes dry when you're nervous just before making a speech or going into a difficult conversation. Your heart rate and breathing increase to ensure better blood flow. A cocktail of hormones like epinephrine and oxytocin are cued up and produced, which amplifies your body's ability to act (and remarkably, in the case of oxytocin, reminds you to seek help).
Don't be mistaken about what happens when you feel fear. Your body is readying itself to help you face what you fear in the way it knows how.
What causes us to feel fear?
1) Fear occurs to us unconsciously. Do you pause to think, hey, very angry looking snake! Maybe I should be scared. Of course not, it would be too late! Fear becomes much clearer when we examine what happens inside your brain. When you are afraid, the fear/anger/aggression/anxiety centre of your brain - the amygdalas (get used to this name, it's gonna keep popping up) lights up. And we've covered all the changes that happen in your body: your blood pressure, your hormones, your heart-rate. But remember how amygdala is like a train interchange with direct routes to different parts of your brain? There is a direct neural link between our amygdala and your pre-frontal cortex, the rational thinking part of your brain. And if we look closely enough or we think things through, sometimes we realise, argh! it's not an angry snake, it's just a prank toy that your annoying friend had thrown at you. Or if you've handled angry snakes enough times, your amygdala does not light as much. Your blood pressure and your heart rate do not increase as much, you realise what you need to do is to stay calm and slowly back away.
Finally, notice how fear, anger, aggression, and anxiety are processed by the same part of the brain, the amygdala. This is no coincidence. These 4 emotions are closely tied to one another; aggression maybe triggered because one is nervous, angry, or fearful. Being fearful may cause one to react angrily, as a self-defense mechanism. Fear, like all our emotions, happens to us. Mostly, we can't control how it originates. But we can control how it develops by understanding what exactly is causing fear and by choosing the response that dispels it
2) We fear what we are unconfident or uncertain about. Think back on your ancestors doing something they weren't confident or certain off - hunting a massive animal without a weapon, or eating a berry they've never seen before. Doing so would mean a very high chance of seriously harming themselves. Today, after many cycles of evolution, we have been wired based on these experiences.
Think about it. Are you ever fearful of something you've done before, and are good? Brushing your teeth, putting on your clothes, indulging in your favourite hobby (whatever it is)? Of course not. You know you can perform these functions easily. You are confident.
But many of us would have felt fearful and anxious the first time we ventured into something new: using a pair of chopsticks, riding a bicycle, swimming, going on a first date. We were uncertain about these functions, and we were not confident about performing them. However, once we have demonstrated to ourselves that we are able to perform these tasks, we are no longer afraid. The same applies to more challenging tasks. Some of us struggle with: public speaking, starting a business, having a very difficult conversation with the CEO... You are uncertain and unconfident if you can succeed. But once you have proven to yourself you are able to do it, even for the more challenging tasks, you are no longer afraid. People might start off feeling scared about public speaking, but after speech 3797, you're pro The catch, of course, is that sometimes, we are too scared to start.
Even if we were certain of something OR confident about something, many of us will still feel some amount of fear. We might be theoretically certain how we should use a pair of chopsticks, but if we have never succeeded in using them properly, we remain unconfident and will still feel nervous if we had to use them, especially when others are observing. You might also be confident about
3) we fear what is painful. Boxer. climbing 100 flights of stairs or doing 100 burpees. But pain is not just physical but mental. Failure is painful. Being judged is painful.
This is why you procrastinate. You either fear what you have to do bevause you don't know how to do it (you don't fear brushing your teeth for example), or you fear doing something becaue you know it will be effortful
4) we fear what we cannot control
Learn more about your amygdala, the amygdala hijack, the thalamus, the pre-frontal cortex, and how your brain works here.
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Summary:
- Fear and anxiety (and anger + aggression) are always
What's more important - movie or health?
What sort of question is this? Obviously health is more important than watching any movie!
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Ah... but is it?
Some of you might be familiar with Dan Ariely, the behavioural scientist (this site carries several features of his excellent - from why and how we cheat, to how to encourage savings, to whether monetary rewards work to motivate staff).
Ariely has experienced quite a fair bit of misfortune with health. As a teenager, he suffered from burns to about half of his body (which explains why he has only half a beard, the right side of his face is scar tissue). While being treated for his burns, he contracted Hepatitis C at the hospital from an infected needle.
Left untreated, patients with Hepatitis C would eventually suffer from liver cirrhosis (basically the complete wearing out of the liver), with a real possibility of death. At that time, the treatment for Hepatitis C was the drug Interferon, which had massive side-effects — headaches, nausea, vomiting, shivering, lasting for almost a day. And it was not a one-off; Interferon had to be injected 3 times a week, over many months.
But surely people can bear the horrible side-effects of the drug knowing that it would save their lives? After all, what’s more important than… living?
As it turns out, NO. Ariely was the only patient in his batch who managed to finish the entire course of Interferon.
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Even at the risk of dying, people couldn’t bear the short-term pain of the drug’s side effects.
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So did Ariely possess extraordinary willpower to be able to finish the course despite the painful side-effects? Again, no! It was not willpower, or logic and reason.
Instead, Ariely realised that the crux was not to rely on his rationality but to make the choice easier to perform.
Ariely was a big fan of movies, though he typically had no time to watch them. After being diagnosed with Hepatitis C, Ariely would go and rent a movie (remember this was about 2 decades ago) on the days he had to inject himself.
An hour before injection, he would start playing the movie, and he would inject himself while the more was still going on. Hence, injection days became movie days.
Obviously, the real reward of him regularly taking medication was that he would stay alive and healthy. It’s just that the reward of good health seems so far away, while the pain from taking his medication was so immediate. So Ariely introduced a more immediate reward — being able to enjoy a movie.
In other words, he reward-substituted - substituting an immediate reward that would distract him from the short-term pain, as opposed to relying on the appeal of the long-term reward - good health Even though we can all rationally agree that the long-term reward (health) is a lot more important than the short-term reward (movie), it is ultimately the short-term reward that gets Ariely to make the right decision.
This is the crux of behavioural science - as humans, we are irrational. But we are irrational in predictable ways (e.g. we vastly overvalue the short-term over the long -term), which allows us to correct our own behaviour. It is this understanding of our predictable irrationality that:
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Explains why people refuse to wear masks or social distance, even during the Covid-19 period
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Provides some guidance to us on how we can get ourselves to do things we don't feel like doing.